MBA, CISA, CGEIT, CRISC, CRMA, DTM; Senior Manager, Internal Controls and Risk Management; Blue Cross Blue Shield of Illinois; Vice President, ISACA Chicago Chapter
We have often heard these pearls of wisdom during our formative years: “Play nice. If you don’t play nice, no one will want to play with you.” “You have to be nice.” “Be a nice girl.” Unfortunately, many of us (myself included) suffer from what I’m calling the “Nice Syndrome.”
Merriam-Webster dictionary defines nice as pleasing and agreeable. Nice was rewarded, reinforced and subsequently internalized, leading to:
- Putting other’s needs before your own
- Over apologizing
- Consistently asking for permission
- Denying your own power
- Not asking for what you want o...